Something For You

Published September 27, 2017 by ravenstorm2014

Here’s my step by step guide for becoming extremely beautiful: 
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. Celebrate your uniqueness. You are magic, baby, don’t let the world tell you any different. 
2. Remember that sexy is an attitude, not a size. 
3. Fall in love with yourself. Look at your darkness and appreciate the balance it brings. Allow yourself to truly recognize your magic and stop creating an image of yourself based on what you can’t do. Whatever you have to offer, however big or small, is just what the world needs…focus on that! 
4. Find the courage to walk in what you really are. Be real. Refuse to trade your authenticity for the approval of others. 
5. No-one else should be dictating how you see yourself. Beauty is yours to define. Take back your beauty and own it. 
You are beautiful!


Why Don’t They Just Leave?”

Published September 21, 2017 by ravenstorm2014

“Why Don’t They Just Leave?” A question. I have been asked many times . 

People who have never been abused often wonder why a person wouldn’t just leave an abusive relationship. They don’t understand that leaving can be more complicated than it seems.
Leaving is often the most dangerous time for a victim of abuse, because abuse is about power and control. When a victim leaves, they are taking control and threatening the abusive partner’s power, which could cause the abusive partner to retaliate in very destructive ways.
Aside from this danger, there are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships. Here are just a few of the common ones:
Fear: A person may be afraid of what will happen if they decide to leave the relationship.

Believing Abuse is Normal: A person may not know what a healthy relationship looks like, perhaps from growing up in an environment where abuse was common, and they may not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy.

Fear of Being Outed: If someone is in an LGBTQ relationship and has not yet come out to everyone, their partner may threaten to reveal this secret.

Embarrassment or Shame: It’s often difficult for someone to admit that they’ve been abused. They may feel they’ve done something wrong by becoming involved with an abusive partner. They may also worry that their friends and family will judge them.

Low Self-Esteem: When an abusive partner constantly puts someone down and blames them for the abuse, it can be easy for the victim to believe those statements and think that the abuse is their fault.

Love: So often, the victim feels love for their abusive partner. They may have children with them and want to maintain their family. Abusive people can often be charming, especially at the beginning of a relationship, and the victim may hope that their partner will go back to being that person. They may only want the violence to stop, not for the relationship to end entirely.

Cultural/Religious Reasons: Traditional gender roles supported by someone’s culture or religion may influence them to stay rather than end the relationship for fear of bringing shame upon their family.

Language Barriers/Immigration Status: If a person is undocumented, they may fear that reporting the abuse will affect their immigration status. Also, if their first language isn’t English, it can be difficult to express the depth of their situation to others.

Lack of Money/Resources: Financial abuse is common, and a victim may be financially dependent on their abusive partner. Without money, access to resources or even a place to go, it can seem impossible for them to leave the relationship. This feeling of helplessness can be especially strong if the person lives with their abusive partner.

Disability: When someone is physically dependent on their abusive partner, they can feel that their well-being is connected to the relationship. This dependency could heavily influence their decision to stay in an abusive relationship.

Love Yourself

Published July 12, 2017 by ravenstorm2014

Ladies, l want to encourage you to love your body. And l don’t mean “accept” it, l mean LOVE it!
Many of us have suffered from sexual abuse. Many of us fear others just touching us, but we deserve to love the skin we’re in. 
So pamper yourself. Take a long bath, go hiking, put on some of your favorite lotion. Eat healthy foods and give yourself a treat when the day is done. 
And feel free to hug yourself and more. That body of your’s deserves to feel good with no guilt, shame or pain involved. 
It’s about time we love ourselves.