CREATING A SAFETY PLAN

Personalized Safety Plan :

Your SAFETY is the most important thing. Listed below are tips to help keep you safe.

If you are in an abusive relationship, think about…

Having important phone numbers nearby for you and your children.
Numbers to have are the police, Domestic Violence hotlines, friends and the local shelter.
Friends or neighbors you could tell about the abuse. Ask them to call the police if they hear angry or violent noises. If you have children, teach them how to dial 911. Make up a code word that you can use when you need help.

How to get out of your home SAFELY…..
Practice ways to get out.
Find SAFE places in your home where there are exits and no weapons. If you feel abuse is going to happen try to get your abuser to one of these safer places.
Any weapons in the house. Think about ways that you could get them out of the house.
Even if you do not plan to leave, think of where you could go. Think of how you might leave. Try doing things that get you out of the house – taking out the trash, walking the pet or going to the store. Put together a bag of things you use everyday (see the checklist below). Hide it where it is easy for you to get.
Going over your safety plan often.

If you consider leaving your abuser, think about the safest time to leave and how you would get out of the house safely…..
Keep any evidence of abuse – this will be helpful if you decide to take legal action in the future. Evidence includes: photos of bruises and injuries, ripped clothing, police documentation, threatening e-mails or voice mail messages, and medical records.
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List at least 4 places you could go if you leave your home.
People who might help you if you left.
Think about people who will keep a bag for you. Think about people who might lend you money.
Make plans for your pets.
Keeping change for phone calls or getting a cell phone.
Opening a bank account or getting a credit card in your name. Begin saving money little by little out of the grocery budget, or from any other source you can find. Begin to establish a credit history independent of your partner.
Get a post office box and have your personal mail sent there.
How you might leave…
Try doing things that get you out of the house – taking out the trash, walking the family pet, or going to the store.
Practice how you would leave….
Practice to see whether you will have difficulty getting out that way.
How you could take your children with you safely. There are times when taking your children with you may put all of your lives in danger. You need to protect yourself to be able to protect your children.
Putting together a bag of things you use everyday. Hide it where it is easy for you to get.

ITEMS TO TAKE, IF POSSIBLE
 Children (if it is safe)
 Money
 Keys to car, house, work
 Extra clothes A change of clothing for yourself and each child.
 Medicine
 Important papers for you and your children
 Birth certificates
Marriage license
 Social security cards
 School and medical records
 Bankbooks, credit cards
 Driver’s license
 Car registration
 Welfare identification
 Passports, green cards, work permits
 Lease/rental agreement
 Mortgage payment book, unpaid bills
 Insurance papers
 PPO, divorce papers, custody orders
 Address book
 Pictures, jewelry, things that mean a lot to you
 Items for your children (toys, blankets, etc.)
Do not leave your bag at home. Keep it at a safe place: a friend’s home, a neighbor’s house, or at work. ***
Think about reviewing your safety plan often.

If you have left your abuser, think about…

Your safety – you still need to.
Getting a cell phone. These phones are for when you need to call the police and cannot get to any other phone.
Getting a PPO from the court. Keep a copy with you all the time. Give a copy to the police, people who take care of your children, their schools and your boss.
Changing the locks. Consider putting in stronger doors, smoke and carbon monoxide detectors, a security system and outside lights.
Telling friends and neighbors that your abuser no longer lives with you. Ask them to call the police if they see your abuser near your home or children.
Telling people who take care of your children the names of people who are allowed to pick them up. If you have a PPO protecting your children, give their teachers and babysitters a copy of it.
Telling someone at work about what has happened. Ask that person to screen your calls. If you have a PPO that includes where you work, consider giving your boss a copy of it and a picture of the abuser. Think about and practice a safety plan for your workplace. This should include going to and from work.
Not using the same stores or businesses that you did when you were with your abuser.
Someone that you can call if you feel down. Call that person if you are thinking about going to a support group or workshop.
Safe way to speak with your abuser if you must.
Going over your safety plan often.

WARNING: Abusers try to control their victim’s lives. When abusers feel a loss of control – like when victims try to leave them – the abuse often gets worse. Take special care when you leave. Be careful even after you have left.

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