Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States, more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
We define domestic violence as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.
One woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds in the United States.
When Violence Occurs
CALL 911. Show police any injuries. Keep medical records and take pictures of injuries. Ask for help in getting to a domestic abuse shelter. DOCUMENT THE ABUSE
If you are a victim of abuse, you are not alone. You have the right to be safe! You are not responsible for someone’s violent behavior! No one deserves to be beaten or threatened
Are you a Victim of Domestic Violence?
“1. Is your partner threatening or violent towards you or the children?
2. Do you find yourself making excuses or minimizing your partner’s behavior?
3. Do you feel completely controlled by your partner?
4. Do you feel helpless, trapped, alone, and isolated?
5. Do you blame yourself for the violence?
6. Does your partner blame you and tell you that you are the cause of all his problems?
7. Do you blame the violence on stress, on drugs/alcohol, or a bad childhood?
8. Does your partner constantly accuse you of having affairs when he can’t account for 100% of your time? Does he tell you jealousy is a sign of love?
9. Do you fear going home?
10. Are you limited in your freedom like a child? (Go to the store and come straight home. It should take you 15 minutes.)
11. Do you find yourself lying to hide your partner’s real behavior (for example, saying you fell down the stairs when actually you were pushed)?
12. Are you embarrassed or humiliated by your partner in an effort to control your behavior, especially in public?
13. Does your partner abandon you, leave you places, or lock you out?
14. Does your partner hide your keys, mail, or other important papers
Domestic Violence Stages
STAGE 1: Pre-battering violence: verbal abuse, hitting objects, throwing objects, breaking objects, and making threats; increased tension, anger, blaming and arguing. When abusers hit or break objects or make threats, almost 100% resort to Domestic Violence.
STAGE 2: The Beginning: pushing, grabbing, restraining.
STAGE 3: : slapping, pinching, kicking, pulling hair.
STAGE 4: hitting, choking, beating with objects, use of weapons, and rape by intimidation, threat or force.
STAGE 5: Abuser may deny or rationalize the violence, apologizing or promising not to repeat the abuse